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Life has been pretty exciting around our house lately.
In the kitchen I’ve had an exciting week of brewing my first batch of kombucha. I know pretty exciting stuff!
Something else has been “brewing” around our house too!
News I have been excited to share!
A few weeks ago our family enjoyed a wonderfully relaxing week on vacation. It was a time well spent soaking up the sun and making family memories. After a week of glorious vacation we not only brought home lots of memories and fresh tans, but also a preschooler no longer in diapers and pull-ups.
An exciting new change!
Piper turned three the first week of March. Three and still in pull-ups with no interest in the toilet! I’m talking absolutely zero interest!
By three it is largely assumed a child must be either well established with using the toilet or in the process of being trained. Three came for Piper, however, it didn’t bring any sign of potty time happening in the big toilet anytime soon. Neither did we choose to head down the road of training.
I truly believe sometimes we, as loving parents, push our young children to “age appropriate” activities before they are truly ready! Often I find myself tempted to push. Whether it’s potty training by three, sleeping through the night at six weeks, or going in a class alone. So often this push comes with complaints about battles. Our children simply don’t fit into our time frame for life and so we struggle and fight and complain until they do. Parenting becomes an all out battle. A battle which parents are set on winning. Creating a power struggle between parent and child. A struggle that only leads to frustration for both.
No potty training?
What’s the alternative?
Pull-ups till high school?
What would happen if instead of constantly pushing and desiring children to fit into our perfect timeline and mold for life we allowed new milestones and growth, like using the toilet, to come naturally when a child is naturally ready?
In their own time and own way.
Young children when given proper examples in their parents want in time to mature assuming more grown-up behaviors. Allowing a child to feel trust, encouragement, and a place of support and the parent the ability to lead by example and experience the joy in watching a child grow.
I’m new to this parenting stuff, a mere rookie of only three years. Despite my “newness” to this parenting journey, this natural approach to parenting makes so much sense to me, one I have become very passionate about. One I have seen beautifully work with sleeping, as well as weaning from nursing, and other young milestones. Why not approach potty training in such a natural way?
The last of couple weeks have been a true testament that learning to say “goodbye” to diapers truly can come successfully from such a natural approach. Without any “training” or bribery or struggles Piper went from saturated pull-ups to full-time peeing and you know what else in the big toilet. No accidents, no tears, no battles, nothing but sweet potty success. In fact, he even started waking up dry, a huge change!
100% day and night potty success.
Just his own time, in his own way.
How to Encourage the Potty without Training:
1. Be an Example. Yes, this means you are going to have to be “open” with your potty business. Leave the door open, talk about it, “Mommy is going pee pee in the toilet now.” I know this is getting a bit personal. Without an example to follow children won’t know what the expected behavior is and how they are to go about accomplishing it.
2. Be patient. Whether your child expresses a desire to use the toilet at 18 months or 4 years old, be patient. Advice and questions may come, “Oh is he potty trained yet?” “He isn’t still wearing pull-ups?” You can graciously dismiss such concerns knowing when your child is ready they will express their new desire.
3. Encourage, but don’t push. Offer genuine praise for even the smallest toilet success. Even if it’s only a one time occurrence.
On a different note of excitement, my first week of kombucha brewing is almost complete and ready to share! So much to share, so little time! Till the next adventure…